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“Stories break through into the heart space.”
Walking Each Other Home, by Ram Dass & Mirabai Bush
Will you be ready?
It does not matter what you call a caring person…
. . . a caregiver, a caretaker, a care partner, aidant principal, la cuidadora,
or an angel of mercy . . .
WILL YOU BE READY?
Ready for the caregiver challenges, the confusion, the new routines, the loneliness, the new concerns and values, as newly found perspectives of your life transform you into a caregiver?
It has been said that “caregiving is doing everything for another person that you would do for yourself, plus then taking care of yourself, too.” You become ‘one person living in the shoes of two people.’ – not a very balanced or secure feeling.
“Becoming a caregiver is not a role that most people think about, dream about or even prepare for. But eventually everyone is drafted into, and transformed by the caregiver role …it infuses all aspects of our lives”
From “Growing Together – Transformation to a Caregiver” – from Stories for Caregivers’ video
We do know that at some point in our life, most of us, man or woman, will likely, unexpectedly, be accepting the gift of caregiving, walking along that bumpy path with a loved one.
We have witnessed that the caregiver role does not arrive in a timely manner- you won’t be ready and it won’t wait for a convenient moment!. The role does not hold back for someone to be physically able, socially stable, confidently educated or financially ready for ‘what if.’
But with the resources, support and information available, be inspired to do the best you can with what you know at any given moment.
“I want to touch the heart of the world and make it smile.“
Charles de Lint
Accepting the Gift of Caregiving
We are not medical persons, we do not give diagnosis, and do not offer a ‘how to do it’ format. We know there are so many unique experiences, that it is too difficult to know how anyone else’s life will flow.
Learning from experiences is a gift.
And so we share our gifts, what we have gone through, the emotions we have felt, the unique experiences we have had. The intention is that the words from experienced caregivers will help dissolve the anxiety of the unfamiliar and create courage for what ‘s ahead among those who are drawn to learn.
My caregiver role began eight years ago when I was plunged, untrained and scared, into the darkness of the most demanding phase of my life, the role of spouse-caregiver. I was truly scared and lonely.
I wish now that back then I had found personal stories that explained and clarified my limited knowledge of the caregiver role. I learn best from real-life stories. I longed to feel that sacred bond that I now know exists between caregivers. I craved support. I desperately needed someone to walk with…I would have appreciated finding stories that could have uncovered my world ahead.
💖 Walk beside us. 💖
December 18, 2019 © Judith Allen Shone, updated regularly