HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED?
…if your loved one had concerns about an activity, going somewhere, meeting someone? If we ask them questions when such situations arise, misunderstandings can be avoided, fears can be addressed, and plans made, or discontinued, before the activity, depending on the discoveries.
It is time well spent to ask questions before going ‘out.’ It is OK to listen, to accept and respect wishes of loved ones, even if loved ones might not truly understand what they are saying, even if caregivers don’t always agree. Being flexible is important as situations shift.
Among the many responsibilities taken on by caregivers is the concern for the safety and comfort of a loved one in various situations. That includes what caregivers perceive as safe and comfortable as well as what loved ones might feel as safe and comfortable. There might be overlap so the learning curve would not always so steep.
While it is not always possible to know what a loved one is thinking, we generally start out knowing their general demeanor, and their likes and dislikes.
But, as time progresses, and memories diminish, the brain sees life differently, and likes and dislikes may change. Caregivers need to remember to check in with a loved one occasionally. We cannot assume they will want to participate in activities or go somewhere. Sometimes it is OK to stay right where they are. Answers to questions can make that seem apparent.
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the rest of this article
gives more information about reasons to ask questions
and ideas for concerns when ‘going out’.
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Love and be well, 🌷 Judy
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