What if? Emergency

What if? Emergency

…and you are not sure whether you should leave your building for a fire or flood, or to go to the Emergency Room for health issues:

1. For fire or flood issues, leave the building, or follow posted directions, or those given by your building superintendent or landlord.

2. For health issues, call Telehealth Ontario 24 hours a day, seven days a week and speak to a Registered Nurse, toll-free at 1-866-797-0000.

3. For health issues, in a medical emergency,
Call 911 immediatelyDo not call Telehealth.

4. For crisis issues, call 1-877-825-9011 C.O.A.S.T. – Crisis Outreach and Support Team in Halton Region, Ontario.

Become familiar with these emergency groups ahead of time, know how they differ, and how to respond.

URGENCY happens

..that moment when you are in a panic and don’t recall where you need to call or where the phone numbers are. Sure, they’re in your phone…maybe…but where is your phone right now?

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U.S. Department of Health and Human Services prepared this quite extensiveDOWNLOAD Emergency Readiness “JUST IN CASE EMERGENCY” brochure – information that covers many areas that we might want to consider. This form is US, and so Canadian equivalents need to be included instead for Canadian households.

I would suggest creating one page per person, loved one, caregiver and anyone else in same household with only information related to that particular person. Have this list replicated in the kitchen, bedroom and bathroom and by the exit doors for service personnel and for caregivers.

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In addition, place your Emergency Contacts copies-the following list -of in the same room and same place as the readiness form. This list is for anyone who needs to make calls quickly and can’t look them up.


Download this form..Make copies and put them in prominent places in your home and in your Grab’n’ Go bag.

This generic form has been adapted/combined from several regional forms, plus INSPO from Facebook.

High rise
Life 12 stories up!

It was 8 o’clock in the morning. I had just poured my coffee, thinking it was time to begin wake up calls for My Love. But as I placed my coffee down on my desk, loud, high-pitched sounds began to pierce the air. Our building fire alarm was blasting through our speakers.

First, I went to waken My Love. He had not been disturbed by the sounds. In fact, he was still asleep. I nudged him and when I asked if he heard the fire alarm, he grumbled, “what?”

My Love normally had excellent hearing, but right then when I asked him if he heard the alarm sounding as he slept, he mumbled, “no.”

That is not good news…he can’t hear those harsh, loud sounds, plus they mean nothing to him!

fire truck
First responders come in response to alarms!

The rule of thumb for fire alarms has been ‘everybody out.’ Except in our case, we live on the twelfth floor, we are nearly 80 years old and physically could not walk down the twelve floors very fast together. And if we encountered fire and had to go back up and then down the other side, we could become a distraction the fire department would not need. We have been told we are on the building’s ‘high risk’ list, and have been advised to stay in our apartment with a wet towel on the floor by our doorjamb. We were assured that if we needed to leave, the firemen would come get us. That’s exactly what we do.

In case we had to be ready to leave the apartment, I slipped on a dress and put on my sandals.

I told My Love, “You have to get up right now, and get dressed . . . right now.”

I repeated it a couple times, but he did not understand my urgency. His eyes opened, and in his normal snail-paced movements he sat up, looked at me and asked, “what?”

“There…those sounds That is the fire alarm!” I reminded him. He just looked at me. Silence. I could tell this time he had no memory of what those incessant sounds meant.

I explained, “There’s a fire in the building and we must be ready to leave if we are asked to go.” Grabbing a shirt and pants for him to put on, I continued, “You have to be dressed if the firemen come to take us downstairs.”

My words did not increase his pace one bit. He did not relate to my coaxing. He slowly removed his pajama top and began to put on his day clothes.

There was no way I could speed up the process. If I became anxious, My Love would become anxious and dressing would be halted. I waited. One leg in the pants. The other leg. One sock on. The other sock. I tried to tuck in his shirt while he leaned over to put on his shoes. He pushed me away.

On the way down the hall to the living room, he took a detour to the bathroom.

Good. He will get that over with.

Instead, he picked up his comb and began to smooth out the ‘messy look’ from his sleep. I forcefully reminded him to use the toilet, with a small demonstration to be sure he understood.

fire alarm

The alarm had not stopped. The ongoing reminder to hurry did not mean emergency to My Love.

Quickly, I gathered my phone, my purse, My Love’s puffer, a water bottle and our “emergencies” bag and placed them all beside the front door. In the moments of excitement, I wanted that ‘stuff’ accessible if we had to leave in a hurry. That was a reminder that I should update that bag when the crisis ended. (Download my Grab ‘n’ Go Bag list below.)

I knew my personal role in the fire alarm script. I was not ready with an evolving plan for My Love. I am not even sure I could make one now. I was acutely aware that he could no longer think for himself in emergencies …at all.

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No one in the garden

Once in the living room he began turning in circles, holding his hands over his ears. Those earsplitting sounds were still resounding through the speakers. He was definitely feeling the vibrations. I opened the patio door to see if I could smell smoke. I stepped out and looked over the balcony. No one was there. Usually for fire alarms, there are people from the lower floors in the back garden area. I saw no one. Although I had smelled smoke, I saw none.

I quickly walked through our living room and kitchen. There was a faint smell, coming through the air duct. I could only suspect it was a kitchen fire that had set off the alarms. With that in mind, I went back to check on My Love.

“Why don’t you sit out on the balcony until we know if we are staying or going,” I mentioned, as I directed his focus to the balcony chair.

“Where are you going?” he looked at me. “I am going with you.”

I gently directed him to sit on the couch. “I will go see if anyone is in the hall,” I reassured him, so he would not follow. “Then we’ll know what we will be doing.” I walked to the door.

fireman in gear
First-responder at the door!

As I looked through the peep hole, in the hall walking toward our door I saw three firemen dressed in full PPE. (Personal protective equipment – a term I learned because of COVID-19)

I opened the door to see what they’d say.

“Just investigating, ma’am. Is everything OK in here?” he asked stepping into our entry hall. “Let me look in your kitchen,” he said, passing in front of me toward the kitchen door. “Everything OK here?” he asked again. I nodded and said, “yes.”

After checking our smoke detector, he left our apartment and knocked on our neighbor’s door.

I got My Love a coffee, and we sat in the living room until the alarms stopped and the fire department announced that everything was under control. “Have a good day.”

And that was that. We would never know if it was a nuisance alarm or a prank. We would not hear if it was a kitchen fire or someone smoking in bed, or a short in the system. We just knew the fire department felt good enough to leave.

But lessons for me were how unprepared I was….I had been given a glimpse into an experience that might happen again.

rolling backpak for grab & go
Grab ‘n’ Go Bag

This had been the kind of glimpse I like to give caregivers in my books! Yes, sharing information so they, too, could prepare.

I recognized that I had to update our emergency bag (see below) more often, to check that meds were current, that keys were there, that the emergency items on the bag list were there. I would not put the bag back on it’s hook until I did that. DOWNLOAD Grab ‘n’ Go Bag List here. Use as example to make your own list.


Fortunately, that early morning emergency turned out to be “nothing serious.” But the urgency to check my Grab ‘n’ Go bag became high priority!

REMEMBER YOUR CELL PHONE
If you use a battery-powered cell phone, be sure it has power. Take (spare) power cord in case you can use it. Some phones can ‘share power,’ but unfortunately not all brands can at this writing. Check before you need it.

DESIGNATE A MEETING PLACE
As part of your emergency strategy, plan to have a designated meeting place that someone else knows about, where you, with your loved one, will meet at a later time. You may be able to communicate by phone but you may not. Planning and knowing ahead of time adds to the potential for a safe transition. If your loved one cannot go alone, be sure you stay with them.

INCLUDE AS MANY AS NECESSARY IN YOUR PLAN
If your loved one is not with you but with someone else, have a plan in place so everyone knows what will happen. It helps everyone to stay calm and to be able to think clearly. Work with those who lead programs your loved one may attend to become familiar with their plans and let them know yours.

The same for those who come to your home to care for your loved one, PSWs or family members who might be involved. Let them know the plan and where they fit into it.

First and foremost, remain calm. Stay aware of the surrounding situation(s). Be sure your loved one is safe and feels safe. Prepare your mind and your plan ahead of time. As part of the plan, prepare the bag that has everything for unpredictable emergencies.

DOWNLOAD Grab ‘n’ Go Bag List here. Or use as example to make your own list.

This emergency bag needs to be specific to the needs of your and your loved one. Take time to go through all the aspects of ‘what if’ and write out instructions, make written plans…make it your own. It is more than a bag with extra underwear in it, your planning might save your lives.

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Make it your list
  1. Make an emergency Grab ‘n’ Go Bag with wheels, if convenient) for you and your loved one(s). Gather items and determine best size needed. Can you lift or carry it?
    1. Slippers, extra set of clothes
    2. Extra underwear or depends
    3. Plastic bag to put wet clothes in
    4. Tissues, wet wipes
    5. Spare eyeglasses, sunglasses
    6. Medical documents, medication list, medications
    7. If there is a protocol, have it written out in case someone else has to follow it. Have all supplies that are involved with the instructions.
    8. Health card(s), doctor list and phone numbers
    9. Small notebook and pencil
    10. Phone (if not elsewhere) and phone charger/cord
    11. Identification documents, including passports
      Personal lanyard ID to be worn if away from home
    12. Power of Attorney (POA), copy of will
    13. Current photograph
    14. iPad, book and/or magazine for entertainment for one with Alzheimer’s
    15. Medic Alert information (be sure bracelet or ID is worn)
    16. Emergency phone list in case you need to make calls
    17. Bottled water for each person
    18. Snack items
    19. Extra money or credit card
    20. Face masks and disposable gloves
    21. Hand Sanitizer
  2. Evacuation plan
    1. Follow plans, rules, orders to make efficient evacuation
    2. Know the meet-up place assigned (tree across the street, etc.)
    3. Plan transportation to call, plan a safe destination
    4. Prepare to share diagnosis with staff where you go, hotel, airline etc.
    5. Stay together, do not leave loved one alone
    6. Remain calm so as not to create anxiety for anyone
    7. Prepare what you would do if wandering, agitation or aggression were to begin.

For your local area, check online to see if there are specific instructions for emergencies related to those with memory loss .

Put all pertinent information, instructions, medications, necessary for anyone else to know and be able to find, in your bag. Keep it close to the exit door. Do not keep it in your car if you car is not accessible. Example: In a fire alarm situation in our apartment we would not be able to go to the parking garage to get our car.

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~jas

DOWNLOAD Grab ‘n’ Go Bag List here. Use as example to make your own list.


TWO MORE:

(1) Additional example list from a caregiver group at the Finger Lakes Independence Center in New York.:

Emergency Preparedness

Remember important items that may be overlooked when leaving your home in a disaster.

Any emergency is easier to handle when you have prepared ahead of time. Put together an emergency kit with important items to keep at home, and a go bag with items you will need to take with you if you evacuate. Think about what you and your family would need in a disaster. You can make kits for your home, car or workplace. Emergencies can happen anywhere.

When severe weather is predicted, make sure your car has a full tank of gas. You don’t want to wait in line for gas if you are told to evacuate. Some storms may also knock out electricity, causing gas stations to close.

Task One  Gather your emergency supplies in an accessible place

Have a go bag ready if you have to shelter in place or evacuate your home. Your go bag can be part of your emergency kit, just make sure it is in a bag or easy to carry container and that it is easy to get to.

Think about these items for your go bag:

  • Battery powered radio and extra batteries
  • Flashlight with extra batteries
  • Lightweight blankets
  • Emergency information, including insurance policies
  • A list of medications and correct dosage, and doctor’s names
  • Personal items such as toothbrushes, soap, extra glasses, etc.
  • Whistle
  • First aid kit
  • Change of clothing
  • Non-perishable snacks
  • Books, cards or magazines to pass the time

Consider these additional items for infants and children:

  • Baby formula and food
  • Diapers
  • Baby wipes
  • Blanket or toy

Consider these additional items for medical conditions:

  • Empty pill bottle(s) or a list of current medications
  • Your doctor’s phone number

*Make sure you update your go bag when your medications change.

For pets:

  • Pet food & water
  • Collar with ID tags
  • Pet medication(s)
  • Pet carriers and leashes
  • Medical records from vet
  • Photos of your pet
  • Microchip information

Task Two: Create an emergency supply kit for your pet, your car, and your work place or school.

Disasters can strike when you are away from home. If your office or school does not have an emergency kit, offer to help make one. The kit should include:

  • First aid supplies
  • Flashlights or light sticks
  • Building emergency procedures
  • Building maps showing evacuation and shelter areas
  • Pens or pencils
  • Signs with the words “Need Help” and “All Clear”
  • Clipboard with class/staff names

Make or buy an emergency kit for your car. If you travel with your pet regularly, make sure that you have an emergency kit for them as well. Some items to think about for your car kit are: a small first aid kit, flashlight or light sticks, flares or reflective cones, a blanket, cell phone charger, jumper cables, bottled water, non-perishable snacks, and a “help” flag or brightly colored cloth that can be tied to the antenna.

Task Three: Stash some cash in case ATM’S and credit card machines are not usable in a disaster

Many things that we take for granted are not available when there is no power. ATM machines may not work. Grocery stores and other businesses may not be able to accept your credit or debit card. Cash could be the only acceptable means to make a purchase. Some experts say you should have at minimum $150.00 in cash stashed away. Realizing this may not be possible for everyone, any amount is good to start with. Take $1.00 dollar a week and place it in an envelope in your emergency kit. In just a little time, you will have some cash stashed away for use in emergencies.

(2) From do1thing, from Lansing, Michigan:

..Pictures are representations but not actual locations or people from the story.


What if’ Emergency Copyright © 2020 – 2023 Judith Allen Shone


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Another Day Dawning

Another Day Dawning

ice cream and cookies

Ever since we began our journey in Alzheimer’s world well over eight years ago, My Love has been a Cookie Monster, not to mention his craving for ice cream. Hence the titles to the two books, Is There Any Ice Cream? and Did You Hide the Cookies?) In truth, not a day goes by that he has not asked me those exact questions . . . and, yes, I do hide them.

My Love is now in late stages of Alzheimer’s disease. I see big changes happening, I witness memory slides I would not have believed years ago. I have to be the encourager, keeping him active as much as possible. But COVID-19 has taken a toll on those at high risk, who are restricted to staying distanced, even isolated. He will do some basic chair exercises with me each day. He still smiles when I play John Barry music, so I try to play it often. On the TV, it’s the old black and white, ‘calmer’ movies, with familiar actors and simpler plots, that tend to keep his attention.

Otherwise, I find My Love is not interested in doing more than watching the digital photo frame rotate through the pictures of his family one more time. He still points to pictures of himself to tell me “there I am” or “that is me” almost as if he might be forgetting that connection himself. I rarely ask if he can tell me who everyone else is at this point – it makes him feel bad when he cannot answer.

loved one painting

And so when I hear My Love clattering in the kitchen I recognize that his interest has begun to wander, telling me he is bored.

That’s when I go find a couple pictures for him to colour or paint.

(Download below two sets of free drawings from the internet for colouring )

I put out his brushes and watercolour paints, and a small glass of water (heavy enough so it won’t tip over). Then I drop water on a few colour squares and begin to paint a flower petal or sky so he knows what to do.

Generally, My Love follows my lead and takes a brush from the water and continues to paint the picture. He currently remains engrossed in painting for about an hour, which is a long time compared to other activities. I now offer him much simpler pictures to colour than I did a year ago. In fact, a year ago, he was drawing and painting his own compositions that are now framed on his Gallery Wall. (Read Art and Music As A Brief Intervention in this site.)

When paints no longer interest My Love, I find a picture book he loves to look through. Pictures of the world from the sky. My Love used to look at it for hours. Now his attention span is greatly reduced. But if I sit with him and we talk about each picture, he stays with me and looks at the book. I love doing that, but can’t do it all the time, so I suggest it when I can sit for a while.

watercolour

But time and Alzheimer’s have stolen his desire to do much. Some days I see that the disease has removed his memory of even creating those original pictures. I am glad he still likes to paint. It occupies his time and is something he still can do. But mostly, he truly is happy to have completed a picture when he is finished.

I feel good when My Love smiles and tells me, “I did that.” His tone tells me, “of course!” Watching him paint is a warm fuzzy for me, too. 😚

And the cookies? I just this minute took two little chocolate stick cookies and placed them on My Love’s table with a napkin. He just looked at me.

“What are those for?” he asked me, in all seriousness.

I put my pinched fingers toward my mouth.

“Are they for me to eat?” My Love asked, as he imitated my movement, putting his empty hand to his mouth. I’m not sure he connected with “cookie.” I could not believe what I had seen. I smiled and shook my head yes. He smiled in return.

Does that mean his love for cookies is slipping from his memory . . . is the memory of loving cookies fading? It will be sad for me, but My Love won’t even know.

Another new day is dawning, and as always I just have to remain flexible, in the present and lovingly helpful.💕🌷

colouring book pages
Four of the pictures in the download 1

I share here, a download of 12 drawings on white background I found FREE in various places online. If your loved one likes to colour or paint, use them. You need a printer or maybe someone can print them out for you. Art has been an activity that has provided many happy hours for My Love through the years. I hope it will for your loved one, as well.

DOWNLOAD 1 DRAWINGS (set #1) -14 pages, in pdf format

colouring book pages
Four pictures in download 2

DOWNLOAD 2 DRAWINGS (set #2) -12 pages in pdf format

~jas

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Another Day Dawning (c) 2020 Judith Allen Shone


BE PREPARED for the role of caregivermy stories from my life as a spouse-caregiver are written in real time just like the stories I tell here. Read the stories I share to become prepared for life in the world of Alzheimer’s!

book pair

For more book information, visit caregiver-books.com

Order from local independent book stores, in paperback, hardcover and eBook. Thank you. 🍦🍪 LARGE print in paperback and hardcover.
A Different Drummer Books Burlington, Ontario,
The Bookworm in Omaha, Nebraska,
Maria’s Bookshop in Durango, Colorado

or order online from most booksellers, including Amazon.ca

“My Favourite Things”

“My Favourite Things”

CAREGIVERS NEED A BREAK. Music and singing can be a wonderful release for anxious days and edgy moments. You might not skip through your condo, but you might move your emotional level up toward happiness.

I bet you cannot read these words without singing or humming the tune in your head. Think: “My Favorite Things” from The Sound of Music. **

musical Sound of Music

Yes, words are a spoof. Note these new melodic lyrics focus on seniors and the life they find once they cross into their ‘elder years.’

…..

(No, it’s not about running away!)

Have fun and sing as if no one is listening! 🎵 😉


Maalox and nose drops and needles for knitting,
Walkers and handrails and new dental fittings,
Bundles of magazines tied up in string,
These are a few of my favorite things.

Cadillacs and cataracts and hearing aids and glasses,
Polident and Fixodent and false teeth in glasses,
Pacemakers, golf carts and porches with swings,
These are a few of my favorite things.

knitting

When the pipes leak,
When the bones creak,
When the knees go bad.
I simply remember my favorite things,
And then I don’t feel so bad.

Hot tea and crumpets, and corn pads for bunions,
No spicy hot food or food cooked with onions,
Bathrobes and heat pads and hot meals they bring,
These are a few of my favorite things.

Back pains, confused brains, and no fear of sinnin’,
Thin bones and fractures and hair that is thinnin’,
And we won’t mention our short shrunken frames,
When we remember our favorite things.

walkers

When the joints ache,
when the hips break,
When the eyes grow dim,
Then I remember the great life I’ve had,
And then I don’t feel so bad.


These lyrics are of unknown authorship. The original lyrics and music by Rodgers and Hammerstein.

kittens with whiskers
Whiskers on kittens…

** Over the years, since at least 2001, these lyrics have been attributed, erroneously, to singer Julie Andrews. Snopes.com confirms she neither wrote the words nor sang them for her birthday during a Radio Music Hall birthday benefit for AARP.
NONE OF IT ever happened.


~jas


Article “My Favourite Things” (c) Judith Allen Shone
I did not write these revised lyrics to the song.


BE PREPARED for the role of caregivermy stories from my life as a spouse-caregiver are written in real time just like the stories I tell here. Read the stories I share to become prepared for life in the world of Alzheimer’s!

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